The holidays can be tough for vegans and vegetarians. With so many classic holiday dishes centered around meat and/or dairy, it can be tricky to figure out how to navigate the food and the "why are you vegan/vegetarian" questions. Whether this is your first holiday as a veg, or whether you're a seasoned veg looking for some extra tips and morale, I hope you find some of this information (compiled from experience!) useful.
1. Best Food Forward
Bring a delicious vegan dish with you. I’m all for whole foods plant-based meals, and my taste-buds have adapted to lower salt and lower sugar foods, but your company’s taste buds may not have. This may even be some people’s first exposure to a vegan dish. So, make sure people don’t get the impression that vegan food is bland and boring. Whip out a showstopper! Show people that their favourite dishes can taste just as good vegan.
2. Prepare Polite Responses
First of all, consider what you want to focus on at dinner. For me, it’s connection. So, I try to keep advocacy to a minimum over meals. Instead, I’ll just enthusiastically present my plant-based dish, and have polite and simple replies prepared for common questions.
My family has, over the past couple of years, warmed up to my new lifestyle, and are now fully supportive. In fact, this year we’ll actually be having a vegan Christmas! Give your family and friends a bit of time to warm up. At one point, the lifestyle probably seemed weird to you, too! In case it’s helpful, here’s how I typically reply to certain common questions.
You know, I thought I would at one point, but I was surprised at how many delicious alternatives there are. I’ve never felt better eating this way, too.
How many meat eaters does it take to screw on a light bulb? None. Because they’d rather stay in the dark. [*Or insert meat-eater joke of your choice here*]
Well, I’m not sure how much detail you’re interested in, but, overall, it’s most in line with my values. It’s the best decision I’ve made in my life!
A plant-based diet can actually be one of the healthiest diets on the planet! I find it easy to get my protein from plant sources, like beans, tofu, and broccoli. Plus, I get fiber and other healthy nutrients from these sources, too. There are even some pretty bad ass vegan body-lifters.
For more specific nutrition-related questions, I usually forward the genuinely curious to nutritionfacts.org, which has an easy and searchable index of most nutrition questions you could dream of! The site provides well-researched, reliable information. All proceeds go to charity, meaning no sketchy ulterior funding sources.
No reply needed, if someone isn’t genuinely curious.
Most people are more accepting than you would think. Besides, it’s the same you, just with a slightly different lifestyle. There are plenty of other things to connect with people on. And if someone is giving you a particularly hard time, recognize that they might be coming from a place of defensiveness. No matter how you present the lifestyle, being vegan or vegetarian may suggest to some people that what they’re doing is wrong. Maybe at a subconscious level, they’re aware that their values and actions conflict.
4. Stay Hopeful
Sometimes it’s hard to be aware of widespread suffering, especially when that suffering is invisible to the masses. It can feel overwhelming. When I’m feeling particularly sad, I try to:
Remember that change takes time. The shift towards large-scale factory farms is relatively recent (~1990’s). Every injustice takes time to change, and there are people fighting this battle with you.
See changes around you. Look around at the increase in vegan and vegetarian options becoming available. More and more people are becoming vegan and vegetarian each year.
Connect with like-minded people. If you don’t have any fellow vegans or vegetarians in your life, try finding people on social media, or join a veg group on meetup.org. Remember, you are part of a movement.
Focus on what you can do. Translate hurt into action. Join an advocacy group, volunteer at a sanctuary, or share yummy plant-based meals with friends. Find your advocacy voice. Advocates aren’t just people who give speeches, they’re also people who casually dispel vegan myths by being their vibrant and lovely selves.
Peace and plants,